Daisy's Story

I'm 18 years old. I am on the pill and I'm sexually active with my boyfriend that I love dearly. Last week, I had the scare of my life. I called my mom from school because I had a free period, and she told me that I need to come home immediately.

I came home and we sat down at the kitchen table and she told me that she was thinking... I had told her I was getting sick in the mornings, and she started to think that I was pregnant and having morning sickness. At first, I laughed, she was overreacting and I didn't want to hear it. Then she started crying. I sat back down, and she asked me to go pick up a pregnancy test at the drugstore.

On the way there, so many things ran through my head. I couldn't think straight. My first thought was "What am I going to tell my boyfriend?!" then, "What am I going to tell my father!?" (who is very Pro-Life). Then I started to think about what I was going to do...

My mom has always been Pro-Choice. She used to work at a Planned Parenthood and was very calm and reasonable in situations like this. I was taught to think Pro-Choice, and now that I'm older, I'm a firm believer in Pro-Choice.

How does some man in Congress think he can tell me what I can and cannot do with MY body? So, I decided I would have an abortion if the test was positive.

I got home, went to my bathroom and opened the test. My heart was beating and I was so scared. I started to think about the future abortion. I couldn't tell anyone about it. Not my boyfriend. Not my dad. Not my best friends. Why was I so ashamed? This was something I believed in strongly, right? I took the test in complete confusion and for what seemed to be 5 years. 5 minutes later, I found out that I was not pregnant.

I ran downstairs with the test and showed my mom. "See! I told you! I'm not pregnant! And you were all worried too!" Ha, who was the worried one? In my confused state, I realized what a hard decision it really was to have an abortion, which makes me look up to those women who do make that decision on their own. It must be one of the hardest things a woman can do, and those who go through with it should be recognized for their strength. I am still Pro-Choice, and had the test been positive, I would've had the abortion.

Daisy
October 1998

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