Cat's Story

I was 20 years old and had been with the father only a few months when I found out I was pregnant. I was filled with so many emotions, fear, anxiety, excitement and I was so scared to tell him. Luckily for me he was 100% supportive and agreed to stand by me no matter what.

Originally we planned to keep the child, we had names picked out and everyone was real supportive. Everyone except my parents. As soon as my mom realized they began pressuring me into abortion. There were pamphlets all throughout the house and appointment cards for doctors. Unfortunately I listened to my parents. I was scared that the father would leave me (I realize now he wouldn't have) and I couldn't do this alone.

I had an abortion in July 98 and he was there throughout holding my hand and being my best friend in the world. Unfortunately the entire experience pushed us away from each other. He's still my best friend but I ended up bottling up all my emotions instead of releasing them in a healthy manner. My parents haven't mentioned the experience since and my relationship with them is even more strained now than ever.

I urge any one looking at this route to do what is best for them and not worry about other people. This is your decision, with hopefully the father. No one else.

Cat
8 September 1999