Becca's Story

I met him in 93 when I was a senior in high school. I stole the number off his check and called him. We met for dinner and started a relationship. A month into it I found out I was pregnant. I didn't know what to do, I hadn't even graduated yet. We started fighting about money, what to do, that sort of stuff. He wanted me to keep it and I wasn't ready. I told my mother even though I knew she would be mad and disappointed. She took me to have an abortion.

I was very emotional afterwards. I cried a lot and had many emotional problems for months. I left him and started a self destructive rampage. Then, I regained control of my life and started to talk to him again. We started dating again and I definitely started using birth control.

We married in 1994. We had our first daughter in Nov. of 1994. (a honeymoon baby). Our second was born in April of 97. Although I was on birth control, which never worked for me well, I recently delivered twins October 98. We love all our children and each other very much.

I believe with all of my heart that if I would have had that first baby we would have never gotten to get to know each other and the baby would have had a horrible life being tossed between our families. I will always wonder, but I can not regret because I have four healthy, happy children and a husband that I know is who I was meant to be with. I think our relationship is stronger because of the past we share together. He knows all the things I have done and I am hearing more and more stories of his past everyday.

I believe the choice I made was the best for us. I will never forget it as long as I live, but I honestly believe that I would not have the children I love today. That is how I get through my day.

The choice is each individual person's to make. But I can say, you will never forget, even when you have children in the future. Just believe what you must to get through each day.

Becca
23 January 1999