Anita's Story

I have had four abortions. There. I said it. I get embarrassed every time a doctor asks me how many times have I been pregnant and how many children I have. They always look at me as if I'm a whore. They make me feel that way. The truth is the father of those four children is the father of my two living children and is the person who took my virginity. He is sleeping in the next room and will always be in my life. We were young, foolish, and couldn't keep our hands off of each other.

We started out using condoms. When we took each other's virginity we used one. Then one day in a park we tried it without. Electricity and heat coursed through our bodies. The feeling was so intense that we both stopped minutes later. We couldn't catch our breath, we just laid on the grass panting and staring. It took longer to recover from the act than the act itself but we were hooked. I know what any addict of any drug feels like because I felt it there and then.

I still am addicted to him. His sex anyway. He is mean to me, he doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated. He doesn't hug me or kiss me or caress me. He doesn't make me feel like...you know. I feel as if we are not in a relationship, but instead I'm his personal whore that he can do anything to and I must like it. I do like it while it is happening. But I want a real relationship and he doesn't know how to give it. After the first abortion he strongly persuaded me to go against my will and continue having sex without protection. I got pregnant before I healed.

The second one was a second tri. I saw the sonogram. I saw my baby. I went hysterical. This time he refused to support me, broke up with me and used me for (and hurt me with) sex. I needed to feel loved and allowed him to do this to me. I had 2 abortions in 1997 and 2 in 1998. June and Dec. 1997. April & August of 98. My first child was born 2001. Second in 2003. I FINALLY got an IUD.

I'm in school now. I want to be an obstetrician (even though I can't spell it). Two of my four children have come back to me. I took the pain of the birth with NO meds so that I could suffer for my wrongs. I have to do it two more times. Don't be a victim as I was. Am.

feminism = not being a victim. EVER!

Anita
July 2004