Hilda's Story

I was about 17 years old and i was dating this guy on and off for about 4 years. The deal with that is that i didn't even like him all that much. I just felt bad because every time i tried to end it he would start crying or do something like that of the sort. Well anyway, it was around March of 2000 and i was getting ready for my Prom by trying to get all loose ends together when i found out i was pregnant. I knew right off the bat i couldn't have this baby. I didn't want to have this baby. 

I called my best friend at the time and she said she would help me and would even go with me if i needed. I told my boyfriend at the time and he was sooo happy that i was pregnant and i was miserable. He was in the Navy, he was 20, so i figured i would ask him for the money to help me out on getting an abortion because i didn't want to have this baby, because i couldn't have this baby.

I was about to graduate high school and then in September i was going to start college.  i didn't want to give all that up and i knew in my heart i didn't want to be with him for the rest of my life. So to my surprise, he said no, and he was trying to basically force me to have this baby because he figured that i would never tell my parents because they were very strict. 

I cried a lot and didn't know what to do. I then got very depressed and my friend told me about a classmate of mine that had gotten the procedure done. I approached her and asked her if she could help me out with the details. She was glad to help and told me all about her experience. She made the appointment and actually drove me there. Since i didn't have a job at the time and my boyfriend did not want to help me out, i used my prom money.

When i got the procedure done, she held my hand the whole time. As i laid there i was wondering if was making the right decision.  Actually i knew i was making the right decision, i was in no position to have a baby.  In a couple of days i was feeling normal again.

I told my boyfriend what i did and i broke up with him and never looked back.  I'm 22 now and have 2 yr old son. I'm with a wonderful person right now who supports me in any decision that i make. I do not regret having my son because i am in a stable position right now. The man I'm with, is actually not my son's biological father but he is great, and is playing that role. I have run into my ex a couple of times and he tries asking me why i couldn't have his baby. He just doesn't understand. i don't regret my decision, i believe i made the right one.

16 November 2004

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