Heather's Story

I am 20 years old and engaged to a wonderful man. I just recently found out I was pregnant. I know that I am not ready to be a mother, just as I know that my fiancée is not ready to be a father. We have explored our options over and over, but finally, and tearfully, we both decided it would be best if I got an abortion.

I am only 6 weeks pregnant. I have not had the abortion yet. I am very scared, and very confused. I am very lucky to have the complete and utter support of my fiancée and family. We all agree that this is the best choice. However, there is that one part of my mind that keeps having doubts. I guess it is the maternal side of me, that wonders about my baby.

Yet, even with these doubts, I still think that I am making the right choice. Not only for me and my fiancée, but for the child. At the stage we are in our lives now, I wouldn't be able to give my child the kind of life it deserves.

October 1998

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"For many women, abortion is an act of self defense ("I cannot have this baby") because of the physical, emotional and psychological consequences ... Not just self defense, but in defense of the families they currently have or will have. This is where society has really failed women, in recognizing that having an abortion can be a very moral choice worthy of respect."