Saying NO to Parental Notification Saves Girls Lives
I remember having a pregnancy scare
when I was in high school -- turned out I wasn't, but I know there was no way
in hell I could have told my parents if I had been. And my parents are nice people,
politically liberal and pro-choice, but they still would have been very disappointed
in me. I had an abortion in college and as far as I know they still don't know,
though by now it's not an issue for me.
I can honestly say that I would
have mutilated if not killed myself trying to get rid of it if the alternative
meant telling my parents. Even knowing I could get an abortion without my parents
knowing (I was 19 at the time), I freaked out briefly and beat myself in the stomach
as hard as I could stand with the base of a large wine bottle. But then I took
charge and did what I had to do.
In fact, the whole thing was largely a
good experience for me. Not that I'm saying everyone should go out and have an
abortion for the therapeutic value, but just as a data point against the antis
claiming how abortion is so traumatic for women.
My parents thought of me
as irresponsible, lazy, and unable to take care of myself. I think I partially
believed them. But then, when on my own, I was able to find out how and where
to get an abortion, save the money for it, and plan it so I wouldn't miss class
(and still got straight A's that semester), I really felt like I could do anything.
I suppose it was a sort of coming of age in my case. I was an adult making an
adult decision all by myself and for that I was proud.Ellen
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