Amber's Story

I have just taken a pregnancy test. I am 22 years old with a three year old son, whom I love to death. I would not change the decision that I made to have him.

His father and I have been off and on for 5 years now. He is emotionally and verbally abusive. I do not know what to do. He is willing to go to counseling and try to work it all out. And now I am pregnant again.

I have been trying to get away from him for several years now. I do not know if I go back to him because I love him and really somewhere deep inside want to figure it out ... or if it is just an addictive relationship. So it comes down to whether I can trust him to work it all out. Financially we can afford this. And my son is old enough to understand all of it. I am really afraid that I will end up being a single mother again ... only next time of two.

To have an abortion is a hard choice for me though. I am really concerned that I will not make it all the way through the procedure. I have a feeling it would all be too overwhelming. I'm at a loss.

Thank you.

August 1998

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